@catz I was in that same position last year, and I didn’t get her a physical gift. Her bachelorette weekend and shower (that I hosted, organized, and paid for) were her gifts from me, although I did chip in on a shower gift with my cousins, who were bridesmaids/cohosts. So try not to think of it as not giving her a gift, because that doesn’t sound like it’s the case. Any of the things you mentioned (except paying for your dress) could be considered a good gift on its own. If you start to feel guilty, keep in mind that gifts don’t have to be physical objects, and the most often appreciated ones are those that involve the giver doing something for the recipient that requires contributing their time and effort, which you’ve clearly done. A heartfelt card with a note about how happy you are for her and [new husband] and how much you love her should be more than sufficient for the actual day.
That said, in the case your sister is the type who would resent you forever for not buying her a place setting and make snarky digs about it at every family gathering from now until eternity, it would be worth sparing yourself the drama and just getting her something cheap off her registry or making something sentimental. But that would be more for your own sake than hers, so it would really be a gift to you in the long run. However, since your own guilt seems to be the motivating factor here, this doesn’t seem to be the issue.
